Here's the thing: it is safer to brake for no reason than to continue on and have an accident. In doubt, the car would (and I argue it should) choose to brake. Every time the car doesn't brake and gets into an accident, media is all over it, Tesla gets blamed, people want to sue them. And for good reason, lives are at stake. Until you can be 100% sure that a situation is safe, the best course of action is to slow down. Since the car isn't perfect, it sometimes brakes for no reason. As humans we sometimes fail to recognize those situations, or choose to continue on, and we are sometimes wrong and we end up in accidents.
Don't get me wrong here, I would prefer a perfect system that never applies the brakes unnecessarily. It makes me mad every time it happens. I'm merely trying to explain why it does so, and why it's the least bad course of action.
As for people "almost hitting us from behind"... I completely understand, and I always try to prevent that too. However, if it happens they are systematically responsible legally. They MUST make sure they are at a safe distance whatever happens in front. I don't want to get hit either but on top of this legal aspect, (I think) there's less risk of fatal injuries if you are hit from behind than if you have a frontal collision with a car coming in the other direction.
So, I don't think we have much in terms of weight if we try to push on Tesla saying these braking events are a danger for safety.