I use the drive-through car wash with no contact. Spray only, no scratchy brushes or fabric strips to damage the paint. My last car had an extensive vinyl flame package down both sides of the car. After 12 years of drive-through car washes, the vinyl was in great shape, except for door dings. Those car washes are very gentle and effective.
I try not to be in the Northeast in winter, having paid my dues years ago and then some. However, last I was in British Columbia, I found a garage-doored car wash with *hot* water for USD$0.82. It. Was. Glorious. I travel with a 2-gallon manual pump foamer, a couple gallons of distilled water (for car foaming and windshield wiper reservoir), and the usual lotions and potions for paint, glass, plastic/rubber/wood trim, and leather. Washing and drying the exterior is done in just under an hour. Quite the zenlike 2 hours/month.
Here is an informative article about the best way to wash your car in the winter. Interestingly, they recommend NOT using the touchless car washes as these places typically use very harsh chemicals to get your car clean without touching it. These harsh chemicals will likely strip your paint sealant or wax: How to Safely Wash Your Car in the Winter | Ask a Pro Blog