Ok, so here are the final numbers if anyone is interested:
Vehicle had been parked in my unheated garage at -5c.
Left home charged to 406km, with charging completing as I left and after a full half hour of pre-heat.
I drove 164km starting at -12c and dropping to -22c along the drive, mostly flat, roads clear with some bits of snow/ice. first half travelling 120km/hr, second half travelling 110km/hr
Arrived at destination with 169km remaining and 15 minutes later pluged in to a NEMA 5-20 outlet through a home-made adapter to NEMA 14-50 to allow higher current.
Charged at 116v 17a (I know, should only be 16a, but I cheated...) Car initially reported 9km/hr of charge and thermometer showed -22c
11 hours later charge rate had dropped to 8km/hr
by 15 hours the temperature had climbed to -10c where it stayed the rest of the time
23.5 hours after arrival I started pre-heating and the charge rate dropped to 7km/hr
24 hours after arrival I unplugged to head home, car reported a total of 174km added over the 24 hours.
I then drove 164km home at -10c and arrived home with 104km remaining. which means had I not charged at my destination I would have been about 70km short getting home.
Mitigating factors: I had almost no wind while charging, the battery started fully warmed up from a long drive, and I cheated with the current a bit (this was 17A charging, not 12A charging) Additionally we warmed up to -10 half way through, when we just as easily could have dropped to -35c.
Conclusion: charging on 110v at -20c is still possible, though I do still worry that I could end up at this location in colder weather, with wind which may cause more issues. In light of this I will continue to try to get my "easy 240" adapter complete as that would give me significantly more of a comfort margin.