I have a Neocharge to share a dryer with an EV, so can't comment on the 14-50 sharing specifically, but I've been impressed. It's UL rated, and seems well-constructed.
I've had two Dryer Buddies, and would not suggest anyone buy one. They're not UL rated and I don't think they're up to the task of even charging at 24A. My first one started to melt down (casing literally melted), so I sent it back for replacement under warranty. The replacement failed even more spectacularly, and it started smoking. The inside had severely overheated and looked likely to have caught on fire if I hadn't been right there. Fortunately I was dubious based on prior performance.
Was that Elektrek's photo, maybe? The official photos don't show anything like the one in that article. Yeah, you definitely want the UMCs supported. I gave mine a little shelf. Your (2) here is not accurate, though: NeoCharge has a bracket that anchors it to the receptacle housing. Once the bracket is installed it can't pull out of the receptacle and there shouldn't be any weight on blades. You should still support your UMC, though.