One more counter-intuitive thing I've played with is braking with ABS. Those of us who learned to drive snow and ice in the "olden days" were taught to pump the brakes to keep them from locking up. With ABS one is supposed to jam on the brakes and let the system brake the car but the pulsing tends to cause drivers to release brake pressure. It takes practice to learn to trust ABS, in my experience.
By coincidence I also had a chance to play with regen and slick conditions yesterday, since my road was unplowed and the snow packed down by previous cars. Since there were no other cars around I got to play around with going too fast for the conditions, which is fun. Usually roads are plowed and sanded here and slick conditions are uncommon. If ice is a problem, say at an intersection where other cars have glazed the snowpack, it is best to approach the area slowly — that's a winter driving experience thing. If I skid on ice I am going too fast for the conditions. That sort of cautious driving also includes feathering the accelerator. I agree that shifting to neutral in a Tesla is harder to remember to do than stepping on the clutch to get neutral in icy condtions, something I have done many times in ICE cars (I have near zero experience with automatic transmission cars, so I can't speak to that).