My successful experience
I installed a NEMA 14-50 in my condo in Portland, Oregon and had it up in May 13. It took a year to discuss with the HOA members and the management company and get it installed. So far as we know, this is the first EV purposed receptacle in any condo in Portland. In our building, each unit has its own parking space. Ours happened to be very far from the electrical room and required a very long, very expensive conduit. But first the manager and HOA had to decide whether there was sufficient electrical capacity in the building. I hired an experienced electrical contractor to evaluate. The HOA board met on the issue several times. Even after the approval it took six weeks to schedule and execute the installation because of the HOA rules and required notices to other owners.
I had to be very careful in the negotiations with the HOA and the management company because there was no requirement that they allow such an installation. There was no opposition to the idea, all the concerns were of the practical variety. The management company even helped me find a contractor that they were very comfortable with and which charged me about $1000 less than my original bid. Our agreement is that I pay for electricity periodically when the management company reads the meter in the electrical room. So far, no problems. I paid all costs of construction including the management company fees for overseeing the construction, reading the meter, and billing me. The receptacle is mounted on a pillar next to my parking space. Even with a locked box around it, it is very unobtrusive. The conduit runs up to and along the ceiling of the garage into the electrical room.
Since then, the Oregon Legislature passed a statute requiring HOAs to allow installation of EV charging equipment at the owner's expense with restrictions that are very similar to what my HOA and I agreed to. Oregon's new law is very similar to the California law passed in 2012. Much of the time my installation took arose from the need to figure out what an agreement should cover. This statute will become a template for other installations and probably save time because the next installation can simply follow the criteria in the statute.
Part of what worked for me was the concern of the HOA that being cooperative and allowing even difficult to formulate agreements improves the reputation of the building and the potential resale value of the units. I used essentially that argument to good effect. The HOA members, after all, are all unit owners who some day would like to sell. One in particular worked many hours to formulate an agreement the other HOA members and the management company could support.
I think very convenient home charging is essential to move people to EVs and that HOAs and apartment owners need to be encouraged to allow and even promote the installation of charging equipment. Short range EVs like the Leaf (or longer range such as Gen III) should be the normal vehicle for city dwellers with short commutes, but it will not happen if they cannot charge conveniently at home.