OP - it's okay to make sure things like dents, dings, and scratches are taken care of, just don't be a "panel-gapper".
"Panel-Gappers" is a term I created for the Tesla community. Panel Gappers are the ones who whine whenever they see the slightest variance in body panel gaps. Hey, the panels can be moved, loosen the bolts and adjust it yourself if it is so important to you. Panel Gappers are also the ones who whine about how their BMW has tighter gaps. So go buy a BMW then.
As much as I hate to have corporate automotive bean counters involved with Tesla, that's what they need, at least up to a point. Get the extra costs under control, they add up quickly.
"So go buy a BMW then" - I sure hope Tesla don't think that way! if "Go buy a BMW then" is the best thing they can come up with i think that would be a major problem, you are not being better but instead hoping customers expectation is going lower. The Halo effect for Tesla ( Created by social media either with facts or mixed with lies/false info) eventually will topped out and it will only go downhill if nothing changes because eventually reality will kicks in as more consumers were getting on board.
Also by hoping that the customer don't see/don't mind all those panel gap that they create during manufacturing and thinks "If the customer hate those gap, they can go back to the service center later on and deal with that themselves" is a flawed analogy. My car have panel gaps but the major issues that i got from my car is the rear passenger door not being flushed/aligned properly (Even my old corolla don't have that ) What holds me back by going to service center for repair is that i don't know how long it takes them to fix it, and they put me into a rental car (Hertz) instead of Tesla loaner.
From the panel gap issues, in my opinion, if they have issues with fitting/aligning a primitive body panel within reasonable tolerance/gap, I wonder what are the craftsmanship with the assembly/parts that we can't see?
If Tesla runs like a technology company, the design, software upgrade, the tech and the future FSD surely sounds exciting. But that does offsets with the lacking of quality control/quality assurance, customer support (the actual support instead of repeating "sorry that is the company policy" word), constant spare parts availability, cost of fixing, as well as the reliability/repair cost after the warranty were out (although they saids Model 3 is designed like a truck but only time will tell, what are the actual cost of repairs/services after warranty ends, where we can source a more affordable repairs, etc).
The FSD/AP and all those sensors were only good if the car is actually still running (instead of waiting inside the shop for months when waiting to get some expensive spare parts). In conclusion, Customer Service, QA/QC during manufacturing, after sales support and parts availability were the major issues for now and they need to focus on that instead of keep pumping hype in social media. At the end, I don't mind driving my Tesla now and I wish i can keep this car for 10 years, but if Tesla doesn't change from here, for my future purchase i will have to be more conservative about buying another Tesla again.