OP, on thread topic, the short answer is, we dont believe that 100% in the app is actually 100% of the battery, and we know that 0% in the app is not Zero percent of the battery. Self powered mode will cycle the battery. Backup only mode wont cycle it much.. likely a little but not much.
Saying "I have net metering" doesnt really say if you have full 1:1 net metering or not, but thats not really material to the "which is best for the battery" discussion. The "best" thing for these type batteries is to leave them at 50% usage and never use them, but thats not realistic.
It kind of depends on what your goal is. its rated at 70% unlimited cycles if charged by solar at the 10 year mark. less cycles might mean more life in it, but since 100% is not good for batteries either, if I was in your specific use case, with no real desire to run the battery down, I think I would still put it in self powered mode and set the reserve at like 80-90 percent.. and I would test it every so often by going off grid.
shrug.. I dont think there is a "right answer" on this.