Fantastic explanation, and I think your theory has a lot of merit. My girlfriend (who cannot drive stick) drives exactly like this and it drives me up a wall. It's go and release and go and release and omg I hate being a passenger with her. When she's nervous or in a rush it gets way worse. I sometimes have to drive just to get relief, but it's amazing how much I see this on the road.
We manual-drivers and motorcycle riders are used to something called 'engine braking' which you're well-aware....letting off the throttle means your natural engine compression will slow you down, especially as one downshifts with rev-matching and slipper clutch.
In the Tesla, I simply kept positive pressure on the gas (like I do for a bike throttle) until such time as I was willing to let the car decelerate on its own, smoothly. When I owned a 2018 LEAF S, I was very cognizant of how much some EV drivers tapped the brakes and made a point not to do that, and after a while in max regen mode I learned my braking distances so it was a very smooth way to bleed off speed without stepping on the brakes or having to re-apply acceleration too often (if at all).
I was just kinda worried that my braking patterns were gonna look crazy but I don't have the on/off habits that some might. On a motorcycle, you don't want to chop the throttle anyway because it's safer to have power going to the rear wheel with a settled chassis, especially as one accelerates through a turn, and chopping throttle before a turn is bad too. Hopefully my EV habits after 20 years of riding motorcycles and driving manual transmission cars will continue to serve me well. Thanks for the explanation!
I have no data at all to back it up, but I ride around with people sometimes for lunch, etc, and its amazing how many people do this, as you said. When we start having conversations about stuff, and cars come up, I normally try to ask them if they can "drive a stick" and the answer from almost everyone who I noticed drove this way was "no". My first car had a manual transmission, in 1985 (automatic cost more money back then). I havent driven a manual transmission car as a daily driver in about 18-20 years, but I still "think" like a driver of a manual car. I still rest my hand on the center console when driving as if I was going to reach for the gear shifter, lol.
My wife (of 34 years) drives this way, too. I noticed it before of course, but it did not bother me until we got my model 3 which is our first EV. We had a BMW hybrid before, but that didnt count at all. I also notice it driving behind many (but not all) tesla's.
I actually make a point to try to modulate the go pedal to be "smooth" and maintain speed, and try use regen braking to, well, brake.