My wife, backed by her moms group friends, wants our next car to be an Acura RDX, Audi Q5, or Volvo XC60.
Yes please just buy your wife a Q5 and be done with it. They are good cars. The EV revolution will come to your doorstep at some point. But today is not the day.
At this point, I believe, you really need to give her the car she wants. If she’s not already a Tesla fan, she will just nitpick all the “problems” with the car after delivery until it makes you crazy. It wouldn’t matter if it had an espresso maker built in, it won’t be good enough.
I also have to echo the above. especially since you are stretching your budget to buy even the base Model 3 -- and are further banking on the tax credit. Your wife will probably find that the Model 3 lacks the fit and finish of other cars in this price point. I felt the same about the Model S when I 1st became interested b/c I was used to driving around in Mercedes and Range Rovers that have a much more refined interior at the same price point.
But I wanted to be part of the future. so I made the trade off. your wife may not be willing to do the same.
I would look closely at the Chevy Bolt. in is an EV, it is well reviewed, you get similar range as the Model 3 (no supercharging, so your road tripping abilities are limited, but you have a second car for that.) And you can collect the $7,500 tax credit no problem.
oh.. wait...
if you really are stretching your budget to buy the base Model 3, are you sure you have enough annual tax liabilty to claim the entire $7,500 tax credit? I would speak to an accountant. I used drive a leased Chevy Volt and would hang out at the GM-Volt.com forum where you often got posts saying things like "I don't think I qualify for the full $7,00 tax credit" or "my credit isn't that good" -- I expect to see much more such post on TMC as Model 3 production hits its stride and non Tesla owners are given the option to configure.
Finally, I get your frustration. It would be so much better for you if only 20,000 or 30,000 people reserved on Day 1. You would get your car much faster. But that's not what happened here. cold hard supply and demand has put your EV dream on hold for now. it sucks, but don't know if I can blame Tesla or Elon Musk for this. The Model 3 is an amazing car. I hope you one day are able to get your hands on one. Until that day, there is a "vent your frustrations here" thread somewhere on this forum.