Are you stretching financially to buy it in the first place? If that last amount is something you cannot afford, I would say think twice about making such a large purchase. Sell the truck, of course, and look into a smartly-priced car within your means. If you must have a Tesla, consider getting the refund and renting something for a few weeks and look for another deal towards December when further discounting of inventory cars may be happening.
You are in Maine. In winter, BEVs lose about 30% range to the cold weather. You chose a 60 kWh battery to perhaps save on costs. That extra 15 kWh can be crucial in a northern climate.
Have you driven any other plug-in cars at all? Did you want X just for falcon wing doors? You can drive electrically in 25 other ways across the plug-in marketplace. The list of available plug-ins is condensed in this list here:
Monthly Plug-In Sales Scorecard
If you have small children and the funds are being stretched - consider the kids and their future and funds needed to raise them. When I was young (teenager) I thought "when I grow up, I wanna spend my money on something cool, like a Lamborghini! (flip up doors)". As I grew up and raised kids, I spend money like an 80 year old recluse hermit who never wants to pay extra for cheese on a sandwich. Make family life plans carefully - once you sign a car contract, deprecation sets in immediately.
I would recommend that you (or anyone reading this) look into "Financial Peace University" and carefully start building a family budget. I am even willing to pay for anyone's attendance to the class with their spouse - if you take me up on it, and two people on TMC already have - I paypal the money to them so that they can pay for the class and all I want to do is help pay it forward to educate people on planning well with their budgets.