I would think Tesla would be unlikely to allow user choice to down-rate the charge rate at a 90kW super charger for a few reasons:
1. They know better how fast your battery can take a charge based on how it's been used recently and over it's life. Why offer you the chance to second guess them?
2. That supercharge station represents a big capital investment. Why would you want it to reduce the number of cars it can potentially charge per day because you let a user turn a 30 minute charge into a 2 hour one?
3. It's not good for the Tesla brand for cars at supercharge stations to be on charge longer than they have to be ("Oh they say it's 30 minutes but I saw one charging for over 2 hours the other day")
4. Other Tesla customers will be upset if they turn up to fast charge, there is a car already there, and it ain't gone in around 30 minutes or less.
Regarding 1: Everybody knows that charging at <90 kW is better for the battery than charging at 90 kW. It's not about second guessing Tesla...it's just plain fact. If you'd rather treat your battery a little better, there's nobody waiting, and you have the time, charging at a lower C rate is going to be preferred.
Regarding 2: Agreed....but in many locations I doubt there will be lines of people waiting at a supercharger for a while. Even with 20,000 Model S's spread around the world, what percent of them are in proximity of a supercharger, and what percentage of those are on a road trip? Superchargers (except those closer to urban areas with higher Model S concentrations) are going to see relatively sparse use for awhile.
Regarding 3: I don't see this as a big deal. How many people will sit around watching a supercharger for hours? Besides, FUD is FUD. People who want to spread misinformation about EVs are going to do it whether they see a car sitting at a supercharger for 2 hours or not.
Regarding 4: Agreed...but there are several ways to handle this. This could boil down to courtesy...or, since that is unlikely (hehe), a customer who's waiting for a supercharger could indicate so on their touchscreen (or phone in to Tesla). Since superchargers are connected to the internet, they could kick a user who's been on a supercharger for >75 minutes (or whatever). Just like a server will boot someone who's been idle for x minutes.