250kW V3 chargers are WAY better mainly because the pedestals don’t share a charger. It sucks when you just start charging and someone pulls up next to you and then steals half your charge rate. I avoid V2 Superchargers if possible.
That is true, though there is some sharing at V3, but in a larger pool. They can't charge every car in a V3 station at 250kw, apparently not even close. That's not that much of a problem though because essentially never will all the cars be able to take 250kw at the same time. Most cars only take the full 250kw for a short time -- which is why there is less difference between a 250kw and a 150kw station unpaired.
I agree that if you go to a 150kw station and park next to a model X that just got there, you are going to get sucky power and want to avoid that. However, a half-full v2 station will charge you almost as fast as a v3 station, and perhaps a bit faster than a full v3 station, where I think the total capacity is around 80kw/stall according to some reports. (Which is the right way to design it, and a problem with meeting the new IRA subsidy rules which require the station be able to deliver 150kw simultaneously to all cars, which no Tesla station does.)
All other things being equal, go for a 250kw station. But all things are almost never equal. As I wrote, by far the most important factor in choosing a station is how well it helps you do what you were going to do while charging, something you already needed to do. For that the #1 choice is eating. It's almost always better to pick a station that will fill you up in 40 minutes while you eat than one that will do it in 20 minutes while you sit around waiting. Now, of course you won't sit around entirely, you will play with your phone, and that's OK if that saves you from 20 minutes you were going to play with your phone later, but usually you just spend extra time playing with the phone so the time was largely lost. 40 minutes of time not lost at all is better than 20 minutes lost.
The next factor is detour to the station, because that's 100% time lost.
Charging speed is worth tracking. You will do more to avoid 72kw chargers though you don't always find them out in the country. And yes, nearly full V2 chargers can result in slower charge. But remember, if you have planned this to be your mealtime, it doesn't matter how slow it is as long as you will get the charge you want during your meal. If you take a sit-down meal, even the V2 charger is going to give you plenty before you are done the meal -- my normal experience is the reverse, I have to go move the car in the middle of the meal if the charger is too fast. I would slow it down if I could.
For a counter-service fast food meal, faster charging might help, but only a little.