Those of us who bought the early Nissan LEAF, 2012 SL in my case, had this very same issue, and all the issues raised here were raised then. A subscriber to the mynissanleaf forum developed a single-wire mod to the climate control head and voila, we instantly had a heat-less vent mode, and it is wonderful. I don’t think anyone is going to mod the Model 3 climate controls so 3rd-party solutions are probably not in the cards. And I agree, this could be a software thing in a Model 3.
ICE vehicles with their free heat notwithstanding, I don’t understand why the LEAF debuted without a vent feature, though corrected in later model years. Especially with all the complaints this oversight created with the LEAF, I don’t understand why Tesla decided to do the same...and created the same discontent all over again six years later.
I DO understand the “set it and forget it” approach to as many vehicle systems as possible, allegedly to reduce the need to futz with controls not directly applicable to driving the vehicle. In an EV however, the price penalty for HVAC, cooling or heating, is a range consideration and, while autonomy is nice to have, manual controls for all functions related to vehicle range are needed. And with heat being a higher consumer of electrons than cooling, disabling the heat has to be an allowed function in the EV without totally disabling ventilation.
So what’s the answer? Not sure, but keeping the requests going to Tesla may work over time. Maybe even submitting bug reports when using the system and getting heat when you don’t want it? After some time Nissan changed how this works, maybe Tesla will too?