I agree with your sentiments entirely. Mrs door banger should pay for the damage. The downside with the body ship is I lose the car for a week, they dismantle it and spray a lot of the car that doesn't need to be sprayed with risk it may look, to the trained eye like it is concealing a much bigger repair. The dent on the door is pretty small and spraying half the car seems overkill.
However, I haven't decided what to do yet. I;m just getting all the facts. I have spoken to LV, they will pursue the other side and my NCB will remain intact so keeping this as an option.
After chatting to local SC this morning, I'm taking car in so they can assess mirror damage on thursday morning. That will likely be expensive to repair so this will have to go through insurance.