I have IT 240V 3 phase In my house/Garage.
This means my entire house uses regular N & L (blue and brown) + ground, except the Garage who has all three phases.
How many kw will this Give me for charging the car, and how will it work/which phases provide What? Considering all possible charger combinations.
Don't think About the amperage. Main breaker is 3x63A, and I can easily lay a new cable out.
I don't think you have N(eutral) & L(ive) on an IT network. You have three phases into the house, each at 132 V compared to ground and with 120 degrees phase difference. There is no Neutral, just a Protective Earth. Your regular sockets are connected to any
two of those three phases, giving a difference of 132 * sqrt(3) = 230 V across. Both wires are Live.
The power you can draw depends on both voltage and amperage. For practical purposes, your choices are probably single-phase 230 V with whatever amperage the wiring and fuse can support, often 16 A max (230 V * 16 A = 3.7 kW), or the three-phase, often limited to 20 A (230 V * 20 A * sqrt(3) = 8 kW).
You might be able to rewire to higher amperages, but will run into the limitations of the connectors. You will need a different kind of socket, like the one on your kitchen stove. That will get you to 25 A (230 V * 25 A = 5,75 kW - if you can find an adapter for that weird socket).
I think the blue industrial CEE connectors go to 16 A single phase (3,7 kW) and 32 A three phase (230 V * 32 A * sqrt(3) = 12,7 kW - as jkirkebo also pointed out). That is probably the highest you can go from a wall socket.
A 400 V 16 A transformer as suggested by eledille could be a good idea, depending on what Tesla decides to implement. Look at
Noratel - transformer, reactor and power supply