Keep in mind even with 3-phase you still need the actual charger on-board. I couldn't find a demo vehicle that supports 44kW 3-phase charging (maybe someone has an example). I mentioned in the Chademo thread: the main reason why CHAdemo was able to gain traction was because TEPCO demonstrated long ago the system actually working in an EV. I think the German roll-out for 44kW 3-phase stations is 2014-2017 (although in the meantime IEC 60309 will work for most people) and who knows how many Chademo (or other DC) stations there will be by then.
Given automakers struggle including 6.6kW chargers (the Leaf only has 3.3kW), I don't think a 44kW on-board charger is trivial. I would be interested if anyone can find the cost comparisons between different power on-board chargers.
I feel DC charging is necessary because it has the highest power limit. Once you have big enough battery packs (Model S 300 mile pack for example), even at 0.5C charging (typical even in relatively slow charging 18650s), you can already exceed 44kW. DC charging is the only fast charging solution that can get close to parity with gasoline refilling.
The clear trade off between the two:
DC: charger per location, more expense per location
3-phase: charger per car, more expense per car
Short term, with similar power (50kW CHAdemo being the leading DC) and relatively low volume/short range EVs, the 3-phase is better, since it means more/denser locations, even if the car is more expensive.
Long term, with DC providing more power and high volume/long range EVs, DC is better (closer to gasoline refilling). It means less/sparser but faster charging locations, and a less expensive car (instead of having millions of expensive on-board chargers, you have something like hundreds of thousands of expensive off-board chargers). And any charger upgrade is done on a location basis instead of per car.
So best solution (works for both short and long term) it seems is to support both, which I think the IEC is trying to do by adding extra DC pins to the Mennekes connector.