90% of our heating is overnight, with the ASHP heating up a well-insulated concrete slab
Same here. Almost same set up! In fact, in winter months I am worried about maxing out the 100a supply fuse if any unplanned loads are switched on!
The biggest opportunity I see from EV's is that they potentially provide a huge place to dump energy from wind and solar. I'm not convinced that it will ever make much sense to use vehicle batteries to feed back into the grid. It is already hard enough to get enough energy into an EV without shortening battery life, without pulling more energy out of the battery for non-EV purposes.
Once you have a place to dump excess energy (which will take some time to evolve - but over-produced electricity when there is loads of excess capacity - will be cheap enough to make it worthwhile developing ways of charging cars at low cost - almost as a service to the generation process.
With devices like Zappi it becomes even more attractive to have solar panels on any suitable roof as you can be sure of making use of more self-generated energy.
Something has to kick-start EV charging infrastructure, and having viable EV's is a good starting point.
Also consider that Tesla is almost to EV's what Hoover once was to vacuum cleaners. That doesn't mean that Tesla is the only EV in town, by a long way. If you want efficiency, less absolute depreciation, arguably more eco friendly, then look for well designed smaller car. The Leaf and my preference - Zoe - have been holding their ground well in perhaps lower profile but equal or more significant markets.
Electric vehicles are so so much more flexible in terms of options for underlying energy than ICE so development of motors, whole power train, braking systems, comfort and safety that there is no argument I can see against them, even if they ended up being a stepping stone or partial solution.