The models with dual drive units have fewer problems because the workload is shared.
It's not really that the workload is shared, it's that the Small Drive Units are a COMPLETELY different design than the Large Drive Units. In a Dual Motor Model S/X, the front actually does most of the work except when accelerating hard. The failure mode actually has nothing to do with workload. I don't think there is any correlation between how much power, or how hard the car is driven in terms of how often they fail.
The biggest difference that the Dual Motor (NON-Performance) car have going for them is that the SDUs are oil cooled, and have no seals in the motor to go bad. The rotor, windings, and bearings all have oil squirters or drip systems that lubricate and cool everything off, and since the oil is non-conductive, there's no need for any seals or separation from the windings or conductors. The LDUs that were used in RWD or Performance versions of the S/X on the other hand are "water" cooled, and have a seal to keep the conductive, water based coolant out of the windings and conductors. The problem is that the seal wears out, and then allows coolant to leak into places where it shouldn't be, which causes a buildup of rust in the motor, creates HV isolation issues, and can destroy the circuit boards on the inverter.
Also, the seal that fails is NOT an O-ring seal, its a PTFE lip seal, which is supposed to hold up to the high surface speeds that the rotor spins at (at highway speed, the surface speeds are ~2,000-2,500 SF/M, and at "redline", approach 5,000 SF/M). Around 2015, Tesla switched from a triple lip PTFE seal to a single lip design, which seems way more prone to premature failure. Most of those earlier style motors were replaced due to bearing noise issues since they had steel bearings on the rotor, but that's a different discussion... The point is that the newer style motors are MORE prone to coolant leakage than the early ones. Why they have continued to use that single lip seal design that seems so flawed, I have no idea, but I've even taken apart some of the very newest revision motors (including those with the newer style differential that has 6 spider gears instead of 4), and they are still using the same crappy seal that they have been for years now.
There's really no "permanent" fix for the issue, as it really just comes down to the fact that the rotor cooling setup on the LDU is just a flawed design because the of the seal. Unfortunately the nature of seals is that they will always wear out eventually one way or another... I think that driving the car regularly helps though, I've noticed a trend that cars with really low miles tend to have more seal issues than cars that get driven more often. The only other things you can really do are be proactive about regularly checking the speed sensor for signs of coolant (once a year MINIMUM), and get it taken care of as soon as you see a problem. If you wait until the car starts to get isolation faults, or stops running entirely, it gets a lot more expensive to repair... When we rebuild the Drive Units at our shop, we add a drain kit to mitigate future coolant intrusion, seal up the passages between the motor and inverter, and of course and we also utilize a triple lip seal much like the original that Tesla used (not to mention of course the ceramic bearings and all as well).