First, let's set aside AP2 stuff. The OP has stated that he doesn't care about AP1 (or most other options) so it's hard to imagine he'd care deeply about AP2. Plus, let's be honest, by the time AP2 capabilities are actually useful/proven/legal, the first batch of AP2 cars will be coming up as CPOs. I'll make my biases clear: I purchased a CPO 85D (don't have it yet) and plan on essentially trading it in every 3 years for another, more current CPO. I'm fine to be one revision behind the curve.
Regarding cost, let's agree that:
Cost = Price + Financing - Value at sale = Financing + Depreciation.
So, what is depreciation anyway? Let's look at a brand-new Tesla that retails at $80k. After tax incentives and referral bonus, you pay $71,500. But remember,
everyone (almost) is also paying $71,500 for that new car. So the effective price of the car is $71,500. And that is where the depreciation clocks starts, not at the retail price. You see this spelled out explicitly when Tesla values your trade-in. They take $7500 right off the top.
So, what does it cost to own a new car for 3 years vs. a CPO for 3 years?
New = $Price * 30% - $2550
CPO = $Price * 22%
I built a spreadsheet to cover this in more detail:
Tesla New vs. CPO