Hey guys, thanks for the great responses.
Right now, I'm still weighing all my options.
I was ALMOST going to take Tesla's offer at 45.5K but decided the hit was absolutely too much.
Carvana got back to me with a outrageous 37K offer so thats off the table.
I put it up for private sale, if I can make 48-49K I'll probably do it TBH.
Figured I could claim the 3K MD incentive (I registered it in my MD address than VA) and the 1875 tax credit and then claim another 3K MD incentive and 1875 for the second Tesla which would minimize the loss to just 2-3 thousand.
I spoke to MD EV customer service who just mentioned that to claim a second 3K incentive a cosigner would have to be attached which isn't a big deal. The MD incentive is not a sure thing (even for the first car) as extended funding will be voted on in April but it is what it is.
I did get to drive the Performance yesterday and sheesh, that thing is crazy fast. Absolutely love it. Not to the point where I would take 45.5K though.