Sorry.
My electric usage went up 50% since switching to the Tesla. So im comparing this to my prior EV which I was using for 3 years and stable electric usage at home. I had that car throughout the winters as well.
The only think I can of is that I have it set to start charging later at night for cheaper electric rates. Could it be that my non Tesla charger is not communicating well with this delayed charge? My prior EV I charged when I plugged in without any delayed setting.
No, Teslas communicate just fine with J1772 EVSEs.
@jjrandorin is 99.9% right when he says that the choice of EVSE will have nothing to do with energy use. The 0.1% where he's wrong is that the EVSE's speed (in amps) can affect the efficiency of the charge. Teslas remain "awake" when they're charging (using more energy to run their computers), and they'll usually "go to sleep" when that's done (more on that shortly), so all other things being equal, a faster/higher-amperage EVSE will be more energy-efficient than a slower/lower-amperage EVSE. This difference is trivial, though, at least between, say, the 40A EVSE you've got now and Tesla's 48A Wall Connector. Furthermore, if you switched to the Wall Connector to get that extra 8A of speed, you might need to replace your current wiring and circuit breaker, and that would cost far more than the energy you'd save by charging 8A faster, even over a span of many years. Also, it's only the LR variants of the Model 3 that can handle 48A charging. The SR variants top out at 32A, so switching from a 40A to 48A EVSE would have absolutely no effect with them.
Others have posted several suggestions about what may be going on, and I have some others. First, Teslas have certain advanced features, such as Sentry Mode and cabin overheat protection, that use energy. Most other EVs lack comparable features, so they can be more energy-efficient when they're parked somewhere. These features' impact don't show up in EPA energy-efficiency ratings, but if you've enabled most or all of these features, they could account for some of the effect you're seeing. Even just checking your Tesla app frequently will wake the car up, causing it to use more power. I'm skeptical that even all of these features would add up to a 50% increase in kWh used compared to an Ioniq, but they might account for some of it. You may want to check your cars' settings with this in mind. Anything that requires the car to stay awake or that uses energy for heating or cooling, will increase its energy use.
There are also some obvious things to check, like your tire pressures and climate settings. If your tires are underinflated, that'll increase your energy use; and if you're driving in the winter with the heat cranked up higher than you had it set in the Ioniq, that'll impact efficiency. For that matter, I notice that your location is New York. If the bill you're looking at included the period near the end of last month with the abnormally frigid temperatures in New York State, then your car's efficiency will have dropped significantly during that period, assuming you took it out at all. That might account for a 50% increase in energy usage during the period in question, but probably not for a whole month.
Furthermore, I don't believe you've posted evidence that it's your Tesla that's consuming the extra power. If you use electricity to heat your home (either whole-house or even just a space heater in one room), then that cold snap would have significantly increased your home's electricity use.
You may want to consider using a tracking app or service. These will help you understand where your car's energy is going. I use
TeslaFi for this, but there are other options. TeslaFi is Web-based, but most of the others use cell phone apps to access the data. Anyhow, using TeslaFi, you can see if your car is spending too much time awake, what the efficiency of each drive is, how much energy pre-heating the cabin is using, and so on. There are some caveats, though. These tools can sometimes keep the car awake for too long, thus creating the problem you're trying to investigate, although I expect that most of them have default settings to avoid that problem by now. Most of them also cost a little money, and they require giving a third party at least limited access to your Tesla account. I believe there's one that's basically an open-source, self-serve version of TeslaFi that you can run yourself on a computer you maintain so as to avoid this last issue, but I don't recall its name.
There are also ways to track home energy use on a per-device basis. I've never looked into them, so I can't give any specific recommendations. A network-enabled EVSE will give you some EV-specific tracking data, but it won't be as specific as what you'd get out of TeslaFi or a similar app. It would tell you if your car is charging every hour or two, as it might if you enabled Sentry Mode at home. IMHO, it's not worth replacing a working "dumb" EVSE with a network-enabled one just to monitor this in your situation, but it's worth considering this capability if you need to buy a new EVSE for some reason.