I thought the "D" gives you 10 more miles of range? Anyway like you I was hoping to get home charging as well, I'm still working on it as getting consensus from owners isn't easy here in Hong Kong (management company is the easy part in my case), however I have no regret just living on SC after taking delivery about a month ago.
BTW I charge twice per week best range so far is 300k between charges (won't drain the tank, normally with 50k left before charge).
I'm sure there are quite a few without home-charging in this forum.
A lot of people who already got their P85D in the States complained that it's 15%-25% less range when comparing to the P85 model. From most of the posts I read, users average at around 380wh/mile.
At the same time, only sport and insane mode is available at the moment. Future update might add normal mode that might be more efficient.