While the 90 amp is fine for just the Model X = 80% of 90amps = 72amps = Model X max.
Having another vehicle connected and idle reportedly takes 8 amps of current.
So, with a 90 amp circuit, it would seem I'm reducing my Model X charging by 8amps if the Model 3 is also connected and idle...
Moving up to a 100 amp circuit (providing 80 amps total available = 72 full to Model X, 8 amp idle to Model 3), would solve that issue, no?
You are really overthinking this and worrying too much. Remember that the two wall connectors
dynamically reallocate power constantly. You seem to be thinking about this in the paradigm of needing full power to both and if one is limited, it will always be limited. But when one gets full and stops requesting power, the wall connectors will shift those extra amps over to the other car. So if one is limited for 2 or 3 hours, that's not that big a deal, because you sleep longer than that.
Here's a good way to think about the big picture of this. Think of how much total power you have to figure how many total rated miles that can supply to all of your cars. Whether it goes to one car first or the other or whether they go slower or faster doesn't really matter versus just having it all done by morning.
So your 240V 90A circuit can supply 72A constant current. I'm going to use a ballpark number for rated miles based on my Model S. You have a Model X, which would get less and a Model 3 that would get more, so using the S number is reasonable for an average. That is about 52 miles added per hour for that 72A feed. 52 miles times 8 hours of sleeping is 416 total miles you can add across both cars each night. I'm fairly certain that you don't drive over 400 miles every day, so yes, the 90A circuit is more than enough to cover both vehicles.
(Edit: And...there's the predictable Tim Taylor contingent recommending to always go bigger, no matter what.)