Don't hate- but I just don't get it.
OP: "When we arrived everyone acted as if though the car had been payed for already. "
I'm REALLY really trying very hard to be sympathetic with your frustration and your story but I just don't get it. Ive read the OP several times. To me it seems like since "everyone acted like the car was paid for" that you went along with it. It just seems that way. Did you flash your cashiers check at them and say, "Yooohoooo people, I haven't paid yet!".. of course you shouldn't HAVE to- you shouldn't have to stick your $ in their face and pull their hair to get them to understand.... But did you try? To me it SEEMS you went along with it too.
I couldn't sleep at night knowing I drove away without paying. ( unless there was some prearranged scenario that Tesla/your bank had already agreed to.)
I TOTALLY get the Tesla incompetence, believe me I do. I still have issues with money! Tesla still owes me $1000 2.5 months after delivery.!!,.( "it's processing")
To buy my 3, I had MULTIPLE ridiculous conversations with multiple different Tesla folk and a zillion different answers about how to do it/not do it. In the end, I had to go to TWO difference SCs on delivery day -3 hours apart- (one SC deals with $, the other SC not allowed to ) but that's what I had to do to pay for my car and then drive it away.. (NC is not very Tesla friendly either) anyway, I get it, but I don't get your version of your story.
I hope I'm missing something. But, then you seemed to be enjoying the car- until the lights flickered- and from your words I believe you thought they'd never notice you didn't pay. ("I just got a $2500 Model 3!) Please I hope I'm wrong.
If it were me, I'd PAY for the car, and THEN return it if you still don't like Tesla.
Did you ever enjoy driving it?
If you could have a do-over-delivery-day, would you handle it differently today?
Good luck going forward.