This article suggest it's a ~11.8% reduction in range with the 21" wheels. That's ~24 miles, so 209 - 24 is putting the estimated range now around 185 miles.
Some folks report ~20-25% reduction in range traveling at 75 mph versus 65 mph, which is about 37 miles putting the total range now around 148 miles. I'm not actually sure how accurate a 20-25% range hit is, but there's quite a few posts about a fairly big jump in energy consumption above 65 mph. Some other factors are outside temperature, wind and elevation. Not trying to defend Tesla in any way, just trying to make sense of the big discrepancy from what you're seeing displayed for max range and actual usable range.
In general, what have your charging "habits" (or whatever you want to call it) been like? What do you normally charge to? Do you generally charge it right when you get home (i.e. keep it plugged in) or wait?