I can almost never use auto wipers. It seems under most conditions my visibility gets to borderline to outright dangerous before they activate. Even in a steady downpour they only wipe intermittently leaving intervals of near total blindness.
The only time auto-wipers reliably they turn ON for me is when I start backing out of my garage, in the dark. Then they wastefully swipe 100% of the time as I'm packing out with a perfectly dry windshield (if wipers are set to "auto").
The rest of the time they have a mind of their own.
I usually activate them manually (one stalk button press), and adjust, manually, from there. No better or worse then with any of my other cars with auto-wipers, except for the part where Model 3's don't have a proper wiper stalk.
Applying RainX over all glass surfaces in the car (roof included) makes a huge positive difference!
I never found wipers to be incapable of clearing the water off the windshield. You may need to adjust their speed, or activate them manually, but mechanically, they work well.
Adding to the danger is the fact that to change the manual settings you have to look down to the screen and tap not once but twice to get the right wiper rate. This is under poor visibility. Not good.
There is no dedicated wiper stalk in Model 3, and it sucks. No reason for that ever given by Tesla. Just because.
This is a bit of a PITA, but it is all very much part and parcel of Model 3 ownership.
All other cars have steering wheel wiper controls so you don't have to take your eye off the road to adjust. This is my number 1 complaint with the Model 3 right now. Its a safety issue. There has been no fix to the wiper controls since I bought the car in April. Auto wipe is still unusable.
#1 concern?
You mean your AutoPilot never randomly swerves off the road towards the trees when cresting a hill, or engages "bumper-car" mode with other vehicles in your lanes for you? Or phantom braking on AP, with traffic behind you, doesn't happen to you?
Model 3's has plenty of quirks and bugs. Some of them are more disconcerting than others, and some get better and/or worse with each software update.
Auto-wiper is certainly one of them, but it probably would not make my top-10 list.