As I understand it, my 2019 Model 3 standard range plus is rated for 263 miles.
That's incorrect. It's rated for 240 miles (though this detail is actually not very important for this discussion - 263 2021 SR+ miles is only slightly different than 240 2019 SR+ rated miles - just 1kWh or so, about 2%, not 9.5%). That's with a 52.5kWh battery
when new (that 52.5kWh
includes the 4.5% capacity buffer below 0 displayed miles). Your car is now probably at least two years old, and you did not give your mileage, but it's reasonable to assume you've lost 10-15% of your capacity and it's now below 216 rated miles at a full charge.
I charged the car to 100% at home
How many rated miles was that? This is really important because it is a very accurate gauge of your actual energy available! (Multiply by 52.5kWh/240rmi = 219Wh/rmi to give you your pack capacity estimate - INCLUDING the buffer.). If it's 200 miles or something, that would be just 43.7kW and 17% capacity loss.
When I got home, I had 35 miles remaining. Doing the math, I would only get 167 of range. This is 100 miles less than expected. Any idea why this is so far from the rating.
If we go with the (optimistic) 216 rated miles assumption, that means you have 216rmi*219Wh/rmi*0.955 = 45.2kWh between 100% and 0%. (47.3kWh including the 2.1kWh buffer)
You covered 132miles. You ended with 35 rated miles remaining, which is 35rmi*219Wh/rmi*0.955 = 7.3kWh (not including the 4.5% buffer below 0).
So you used at most: (45.2kWh-7.3kWh)/132mi = 287Wh/mi. (This would be indicated as 0.99*287Wh/mi = 284Wh/mi because the meter reads slightly low.)
This is not that unreasonable at freeway speed, though it is definitely high for an SR+. However, remember the potential errors:
1) You need to tell us your full pack capacity (miles at 100%).
2) You might have lost a substantial number of miles while in park at your destination with Cabin Overheat protection (with A/C), etc.
3) Ideally you'd tell us what the trip meter said you got when you returned to your starting point, for "Since Last Charge" efficiency. (This would not include how much energy you lost while in park, but it would allow us to estimate it.)