From my POV, the $5,000 AP buys lane keep assist (LKA) and dynamic cruise control (ACC). That is expensive when compared to my Prius Prime (free) but about on par with the Germans. Most importantly though, it buys the promise of future FSD for a couple thousand more. I'm willing to subsidize AP development, and nowadays I consider ACC and LKA essential safety features. Expensive, but OK
Premium package: everybody is going to find something to dislike -- that is the nature of packages. For me the glass roof is an extravagance I really want, and the cold weather package, while not mandatory, makes the car a lot more pleasant in Colorado winters. My only real teeth grinding is being forced into plastic upholstery. I'll have to hope my wife does not nix the entire car because of it; or even worse, make snippy remarks every time she is in the car.
The base car: Easily matches my expectations