Islandbayy, As you can guess, I can sympathize. Rant fully justified. My car is not that much newer than yours, but luckily I haven't had nearly the problems your having and I am still worried about out of warranty service. I don't think you should be punished for being an "early adopter", it is on Tesla to make it right, period.
If I had your car, I too would be looking to dump it at this point. I can only suggest that if Tesla is willing to work with you on a trade, perhaps you could look the other way on a few features you don't necessarily want. I have had a loaner 85 that was mostly a stripper (just tech pkg and leather, nothing else) so perhaps you might find something more to your liking. And maybe because Tesla is still trying to unload some of their old version non-autopilot cars, they may be willing to work with you on a good deal. But, maybe not because you are at the mercy of Tesla corporate. Either way, the whole idea of this conversation is ridiculous and shouldn't be happening.
I, like you probably represent the lower end of the income spectrum on Model S owners. But that is irrelevant. We Tesla customers are not "whales" to be bled dry of our money. We purchased these cars with the intention of having reliable transportation for a reasonable life of the car. That is over 100K miles in my book. To be having the as many issues as Islandbayy at this point is a failure of Tesla. And it's on Tesla to rectify.
When it comes to these worries about out of warranty Tesla's, it is purely the result of lack of transparency and communication from Tesla. It can be rectified by Tesla in a second. Like the extended drive unit warranty, the extended free internet, and etc. I certainly hope Tesla will come through on this, not just for my personal benefit, but for Tesla. They need to maintain a sterling reputation as a car company if they want exist in the future. They need absolute top class service and support if they want to remain dealer (and independent shop) free.