As a newcomer to this subforum, I'm reaching back a couple of years to the initial post in this thread. Tesla says the transition to backup power is "seamless", but as the OP and other owners I've heard say, the switch-over delay is long enough to cause a desktop computer to fail. This irks me because I currently have a 20-year-old solar system with DC-coupled backup using lead-acid batteries that switches in 20 milliseconds. It also avoids converting DC-AC-DC to charge the batteries from solar power. But my roof and my panels now need replacing. It seems to me that if Tesla is selling a truly integrated system of Solar Roof plus Powerwalls they could make a faster and more efficient DC-coupled system (there used to be DC Powerwalls).
But one comment in the OP's post is a question for me. If I understand the design correctly, the Gateway relay is normally closed and just has to open to disconnect the Powerwalls from the grid when the grid goes down. It should not be necessary for any relay to close (causing delay) for power from the Powerwalls to go to the loads. The Powerwalls just need to crank up their inverters, right? And that should be possible within a cycle or two.