There was also a situation where the car in front of me that the autopilot was following changed to an exit lane and my car for some reason followed, even though there were clear markings on both sides of the lane I was in.
I don't see how it is possible that your M3 changed lanes to follow another car - they don't follow cars and I've never heard of this situation... ever on this forum. I suspect you used your turn-signal without knowledge.
Most feedback (I've read all of them) is that people are uncomfortable with the pace of stopping. First, the car sees way further than you think given it's radar, so don't think it doesn't see the changes far ahead. One fellow (on another thread) wanted it to drive more fuel conscious by coasting more and trying to achieve a constant speed (his goal as to reduce the jam). I leave that to future improvements; safety then usability is priority for now... cars will eventually talk to one another but not for a long time.
Then there's the variable of traffic behaviors in your city (and there's a difference) and how people respond. I've heard late braking as a concern, but to the next person it's also too timid, enough so that others squeeze in. Case and point: During a Stockholder meeting a few months back, a young lady walked up to the mic and asked Elon if there was a way to make the car tone down the Emergency Alerts when her mom drives (paraphrasing here). Obviously mom's a tailgater and brakes last minute, it's just her style. My opinion is that eventually, it will learn your preference (in your area) and adjust accordingly.
What many don't realize is that this technology is evolving over time. Myself, I initially drove in AP as though it could do anything on it's own - extremely cautious. In fact, on freeway exchanges it could hit a bump that caused it to disengage (while I was trying to also steer the car in the turn). There was a reason for all that as explained on my other posts. Today the car slows to about 65 mph automatically on these same turns and I have learned to trust the technology. That's an improvement that occured right before my eyes.
As the saying goes, the most experienced pilots crash planes. If you approach this technology as if it's experienced, you are taking risks and those are likely the people not paying attention while in AP. The same will likely occur on FSD.
What I find is that I cannot possibly drive straighter in the lane than this car, so we're a great team. (There is an exception when the lane lines widen and it drifts for a moment always trying to center itself). So I supervise, but it does the driving and I know when I can trust it 100% and when I should keep an eye out. This will change over time to where I cannot possibly see in all directions simultaneously and respond accordingly, and so I'd be a fool to think I could do better.
One more thing. To the occasional braking on, say a bridge shadow or car in the next lane, for seemingly no reason, it's a delicate balance between overcautious and unsafe. The Uber car in Tempe saw the pedestrian yet determined that it was reasonably safe to ignore. As a shareholder and M3 owner, I expect they err on the side of safety. The car is learning along with a fleet of cars in your area (as Tesla explained to me), very location specific learning. Once a few cars pass under that bridge successfully, that hesitation will eventually disappear and that's the learning process. This goes right down to the reflective color/temperature of the line paint on the road where DOT mixed a color out of spec and the cars needed to make exception for their error. These adaptations are happening world-wide, non-stop, so please be patient, enjoy your safer ride, and be amazed with every software update!