No, modern cars do not slam on the ABS. I also have and an Audi and bmw 4WD that do not skid when I transfer my foot from the accelerator to the brakes. Swearing does nothing to help your point.
On the Audi and BMW you are coasting when switching between the accelerator and brake pedals.....
What some of us are trying to explain is that we don’t coast, we’re always feathering the accelerator anyway under what you could call normal conditions. To be honest I suppose we think snow and ice are normal conditions just different.
I have the option of reduced regen but have never used it. If you have snow and ice then you have cold also. It highly likely regen is already reduced because the battery is cold. So what is the point of having the option to reduce it?
I do understand the feel is different and it may take some adjusting too.