Concur with your thoughts from Oslo, with the exception of "widespread."
Even one of these failures should be ringing alarm bells at Tesla HQ. The fact that another poster here reported that his control arms were replaced after a Service Center parking lot test drive suggests that this is a well known problem for Tesla, and that some Service Centers are being proactive. The problem is: that is not enough.
As I stated earlier, someone is highly likely to die from this problem. If one car has the problem, the likelihood of others having it is quite high, especially as the fleet ages.
**Anecdotal FYI for Tesla HQ: A few years post-introduction, Lexus found and purchased the highest mileage LS400's in the world, even if they weren't for sale, by making the owners offers they couldn't refuse, something like, "We like your car. Here's a new one, if you'd like, at no cost to you." Then they returned the high-mileage cars to Japan for complete disassembly and inspection of every single part . . . there's a lesson there that Tesla could learn from.**
In the interim, and at a minimum, I'd suggest immediate inspection and data logging of every high-mileage MS in "salt" states ASAP. They really need to get ahead of this problem as it's a safety-critical part.
Come on Tesla, you know better--please retrain or remove the offending mid-level executive(s). Glad the OP's situation was resolved, but it should have never had to get to this level and this was grossly unacceptable treatment for the OP. We can only surmise the OP has been forced to sign a non-disclosure agreement for a full 100% Goodwill repair, which is the absolute minimum that should have been done here.
Remember: Mistakes can happen, but it's what a company does afterwards that makes Customers for Life.