I suspect your experience with Tesla depends somewhat in where your location is and which Tesla shop deals with you. You appear to be from Melbourne and most reports from there appear to say the communication is non existent or abysmal and the experience is lacking. I am in Gold Coast and dealing with Brisbane office has been rather pleasant so far. I have not had to chase them on anything yet. They have been calling and contacting me with information and updates and it appears I might be getting my car only 5 weeks after I placed the order (if they stick to their delivery appointment they have given me.) So far I have nothing to complain about my experience with them. I suspect there may be some locations that are more overwhelmed than others. Much of the complaints that I have seen come from a select few people, so I suspect in overall experience over 90% of the customers are not having as bad an experience as you are having. Tesla has so far over half a million customers across the world and if there are a few thousand loud ones on the internet complaining it would make it appear that the experience is horrible, where there are many times more people happy with their experience but just not as loud about it. So I would like to add my voice to the happy customer bucket so far
I can respect that. Thing is, if Melbourne is struggling (and you're correct, I am in Melbourne) whilst other regions are doing okay... what's happening in Melbourne to make the communications look bad? Why can't they at least get some of the staff in the other areas to help with keeping Melbournians informed?
The fundamental problem here is that it's what happens when things go sour that really matters, and really defines perceptions of a company. Having the phone lines ring out after two and a half minutes; emails not replied to even after eight days (calendar, not business); customers wondering what is going on with no formal answers, not even a general (but still reasonably specific, unlike "sit tight, your car is coming soon" as an example) message ... it doesn't paint a good picture.
It reminds me of my experience moving house: once from Melbourne to Auckland; once from Auckland to Sydney; and once from Sydney to Melbourne. I used the same company, Allied Pickfords, for each move. The first two times? Flawless. Would've recommended the company to anyone. But after the Sydney experience, with stuff going missing and being broken in transit, I wouldn't touch them again. Insurance made it right, yes, but that's still a hassle I did not need, especially since it forced me into rushing the unpacking (and I'm still dealing with that for various reasons - which, granted, is on me.) Sure, it's probably just the Sydney guys - but it still colours perception of the company as a whole.
It's a similar situation here: yes, the bad experiences get amplified, but they do help to show what happens when things go wrong. And people do want to know that if something goes bad, it will be sorted without hassle. Having hassles before even taking delivery does not bode well for that, rightly or wrongly.