I'm in the same boat, I would've preferred a Y-LR, but I'm solving the 21" Uberturbine Wheel 'problem'. I bought a guy's set of 19" Gemini Wheels without tyres, and hoping to get Michelin Pilot EV tyres for them. And I ordered aftermarket Aero Covers to replace the imo ugly ones. Many high quality options are available these days, and even symmetrical (mirror imaged), unlike most wheels or covers:
All design options for Tesla Model Y Gemini wheels
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Because I live in the hinterland, I really wanted the big battery. So I bit the bullet and ordered a MYP, but worry about our terrible roads and ride comfort. But I'm hoping to get close to the comfort and efficiency of a Y-LR with the Gemini wheels. Selling the Überturbines should pay for all of this. At one stage Tesla offered the Gemini wheels as a Winter Package option for MYPs, and quite a few owners in the states run them without problems.
Even Elon once replied to a tweet that the reduction in range vs the MYP is basically due to the wheels and tyres.