As far as usage goes, ours is unfortunately very high.
Consider superinsulation.
(Your local insulation contractors almost certainly don't know how to superinsulate. I suggest "The Super-Insulated Retrofit Book" from 1981 as a guide -- but be aware that the standards for hooking up heat recovery ventilators have changed substantially since then.)
Yes, you'll want a home energy audit first. Your house is probably leaky as a sieve, unless it's *extremely* large. It may not be worth it to do full superinsulation if it turns out that your house is actually pretty tight, but I'm sure you can get some major improvements.
Second, switch all your lighting to LEDs if you haven't already. Your lighting load is probably much larger than you think it is.
A quick summary of super-insulation.
People vastly underestimate the benefits which can be gained from proper insulation and air/vapor-sealing. If the entire house is air-sealed, and every surface has a sufficiently high R-value (no large gaps except the windows, where it's impossible to do much better than R-5 ) -- then you can have very low heating and cooling loads. (In general you want a minimum of R-40 on the ceiling, R-12 in the walls, and R-2 on the windows -- which is not usually that hard. Most of the hard work is in doing the air/vapor barrier properly, which has all kinds of tricky issues.) The biggest catch is, if the house is sufficiently air-sealed, you need to install an energy recovery ventilator or heat recovery ventilator to make sure you have sufficient fresh air. It's worth knowing that replacing the windows is generally the most expensive part of superinsulation *and* the least important; the walls, ceiling, basement, and foundation/wall connection are all more important.