The button on the charge plug stops charging and unlocks it. The key component there is stopping charging.
The release notes for the update were pretty scant... "Window position and charge connector locking behaviors have been optimized for cold weather".
But I think you are right, the charge port seems to be already unlocked when I go to charge as I can no longer hear the mechanism unlocking after the charge port door opens. I believe it is locking again after a long pause once the charging wand is inserted, but I can't be certain of this as I am less enthusiastic to try removing it without first pushing the button. Certainly when I return after the charge has completed, I can remove the wand without pressing the button, so probably the update is also automatically unlocking after charge is complete. But not being able to determine for certain that the wand is locked in during charging is what generated my question of concern in the first place. Regarding manually removing the wand while charging, Tesla provides the following warning in the Model 3 user manual.
"Warning: Do not perform this procedure while your vehicle is charging or if any orange high voltage conductors are exposed. Failure to follow these instructions can result in electric shock and serious injury or damage to the vehicle. If you have any uncertainty as to how to safely perform this procedure, contact Tesla."
Tesla could probably be a little bit more descriptive in their release notes to OTA updates so that users can more easily recognize if the car is behaving correctly. Based on numerous other threads I have read here, it wouldn't be the first time that an OTA generated an unwanted behaviour. Seems to me posting a question or concern on a users forum might be a logical first step, or at least one of them. But the internet is a funny thing, and one of its problems is that it has no way of stopping idiots from using it.
what has it done for regen, and or the snow tire issues?
Those are all good question. I heard that in V10, pressing and holding the button on the charging wand for 3 seconds is going to extend traction studs when the correct winter tires are installed, setting the Model 3 in high-speed zamboni mode. Apparently the NHL is looking into this with some interest. Also in V10, it is rumoured if you lightly tap the button 3 short, then 3 long, followed by 3 short presses, the Model 3 will instantaneously rewarm the battery regardless of ambient temperature to make full regen available. It is not clear whether these updates will make it to the Model S though, so you might have to upgrade if you want to enjoy these features.