That depends on your driving habits.
Assuming the ICE and EVs both drive the same miles with the same habits.
I'm saying that scratches and knocks from heavy electrical connectors are going to be more frequent than similar hits from a liquid fuel nozzle.
The port hinge would get more use cycles and the paint on and around it will get more handling. Skin oils, fingernail and jewelry scratches, etc. All 10 times more wear than a gasoline port.