I would recommend you swap out the outlet for something you can get a standard EVSE for. Clipper Creek makes a variety of 16 AMP EVSE's that might work with the existing wiring and breaker. Using J1772 sets the amps automatically - no wife intervention needed.
@peakay: You should know there is some pain in the assery involved with using a J1772 adapter as your daily charger. First of all you probably want to get two adapters so you can leave one attached to the charger and one in the car in case you ever need to use a public J1772 charger. Second, removing the charger from the charge port when using the J1772 adapter requires some nuance. I know my wife would have screamed and complained multiple times if I'd made her try and unplug the car when the J1772 was plugged into it. It is much more convenient to use a Tesla solution (either the UMC or a HPWC).
As soon as my Leaf gets turned in off its lease I am planning to have an HPWC installed and hopefully upgrade my circuit from 40 amps to 50 or more. Until then I've found using the UMC with the adapter I mentioned above from evseadapters.com as a great solution over the J1772 charger I was using before. I haven't had any issues with the charge amperage resetting or anything like that.