One question, the door says to set the pressure at 45 psi, and the tire says Max 50 psi. Which do I use?
The pressure on the tire is the maximum inflation pressure cold, first thing in the morning before driving. (If you don't have a compressor at home, then you can drive up to a mile slowly to where one is available). The vehicle placard pressure is the car manufacturer's recommendation based on a set of assumptions. If your driving conditions are different from the assumptions then the pressure needs to be adjusted accordingly. There are four main assumptions:
The first assumption is temperature: Tire pressure recommendations are always based on an ambient temperature of 18C (65F). If the temperature is higher, then the inflation needs to be higher to compensate. Example: If the high of the day is between 38C and 43C (100 and 110F) add 28 kPa (4 psi). In areas that have a real winter, you don't inflate tires outdoors because the valve will stick open and the air will all leak out, so you inflate indoors. In this case the inflation pressure must also be increased to compensate for the shrinkage that happens when the car is outside.
The second assumption* is speed: On a Tesla an adjustment isn't likely to be needed because Tesla, no doubt, assumes that people will be driving fast. Family sedans typically use 105 km/h (65 mph) as the sustained speed assumption.
The third assumption* is load: This is often not the GVW (gross vehicle weight) but the load the engineers think will most commonly be carried. Best practice is to add some air when loaded up with family and luggage. Heat, not pressure, kills tires.
The fourth assumption is frequency: Tire pressure recommendations are always based on doing a pressure check every driving day. If Telsa ever gets around to displaying the actual numbers, this will be easy--look at the numbers every morning before you drive and adjust as necessary. Until then, unless you really check every day, it's a good idea to add enough so that it never goes below the vehicle placard pressures.
* These are my assumptions about Tesla's assumptions.