I didn't specifically mention sidewall height. I did, however, link to a 5 day old reddit thread where a model 3 owner busted his 18" aeros on a pothole, so if you'd like to discuss sidewalls I'd just refer you back to that link and re-state:
The fact is, a 4k lb car hitting a pothole, no matter the size of the wheel/tire, is going to be a bad time. Just by reading your post, I suggest you be more careful when entering/exit parking lots and be more mindful of potholes. Theres a reason you see everybody except for truck drivers swerve to avoid them.
edit: a quick google search of "bmw m3 bent rim" yields pretty similar results to "tesla model 3 performance bent rim" and starts from the early 2000's and spans across dozens of message boards.