Ok sorry for the loss. Enough time has passed to point out a couple of things
1. Got unlucky.....no you made a mistake and put others in jeopardy the van who got hit owner did not deserve disruption to their life
2. You need to leave enough room to stop based on your speed. It was not that the van had better brakes, in Virginia if you cannot stop in time you are given a ticket for following too close.
3. Why the van stopped irrelevant but it did look like there were cars in front of it
again I feel for your loss we all make mistakes but don't confound it by taking the wrong lesions from it
This is a harsh post, but I can't argue with it.
1) It seems true that most localities will find the person who commits the rear end guilty. I have left 2 car lengths per 10 MPH in front of me. I have purchased new custom rotors and new stickier brakes that should have been provided by Tesla.
2) I can't understand why you didn't swerve into the right lane which was empty.
3) I think this demonstrates that the factory brakes are dangerous and defective, perhaps requiring a factory review. NO WAY a minivan should stop more easily than a high performance sports car. BMW's stops quickly and predictably, Porsche's stop quickly and predictably, even those relatively inexpensive Miata Mazda Roadsters and Scion sports cars stop quickly and predictably, so why did they miss this on the Tesla Roadster?
I feel for your loss, but you need to drive more defensively AND upgrade your brakes.
Best,
T