My eye was drawn to your expressed idea of marriage beneath your comments. My wife and I don't fit your pattern, but I'm sorry to say that it probably is true of a good many marriages. We've been married 33 years, not ten, and are partners in life. It helps that we hold the same views on politics, religion, health, etc, which are a lot more important in the long run than physical attraction (though there is that, too). Long months or years of dating, similar backgrounds, etc., help a bunch. We'll never need the club or spade, and both feel we've got a royal flush.