Thanks everyone, so I found that my stock for the shifter is defective for sure because it just stays down.
As far as AP I really like, I found that you can just hold the bottom of the wheel too and do not have to have your hands both on the wheel. I did get self park to work and learned how since you have to put it in Reverse when you see the P. It is a fun learning process.
On a more interesting note car now has 115 miles and 140 remaining on battery, I drove it pretty hard last night I was surprised that my friends bmw 430i was way faster then this. I was def quick but wonder if the vibrating steering caused any slow down. Should I just turn that off? I suppose I am better off with long range cause it is hard to drive this thing nice all the time.