An interesting point here is that Intel has been struggling with they <10nm chips, as explained here:
The video also explains chiplets which the twitter chip expert bear(who someone here linked) was unaware of.
The main takeaway is that as the transistors get smaller yields have been falling and many chips needs to be discarded. This is improving, but for Tesla going 14nm instead of 7nm in 2018 likely improved their costs and time to scale significantly. 14nm was good enough for now, 7nm or better might be ready for cost/scale in 2021.