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It's a terrible setup, having to take your eyes off the road to look at the screen to answer your phone. Better off just turning your phone off while you drive.
You are right; Tesla should enable using a press on the scroll wheel. That said; with a little practice you can tap screen without really looking at screen. I hope Tesla eventually fixes it.