I would like like to comment in general on your concerns, because I shared them and after having the MYLR for several days and just having taken a several hundred mile trip today, I have some thoughts.
I'm not going to go down the list as others have done, but in general all your concerns are warranted to some degree. What I have observed so far is that the Tesla driving experience is unlike any other I have driven. If you are someone who just wants to get in and drive and not put any effort into it, this probably isn't the car for you. So far, I have found the lack of blind spot monitoring/warning in particular disconcerting. Having to train myself to first look down at the screen's representation of the cars around me, then put on a turn signal, then look again at the camera window, then finally the mirror and/or look out the window is a lot of mental steps, especially in heavy traffic. It's so much better when my mirrors light up with a warning light and then, if I ignore that there is a warning chime. And if I ignore those two warnings, it will attempt to prevent me from colliding with the other car. But, I've never in 20,000 miles gotten to the 3rd safety feature because the USS sensors are so effective in detecting vehicles around me.
I do find the lack of a center display also less than great, especially at night where there is just a big black hole in front of you. And before the fan boys and girls chime in here, remember Tesla puts this on the X and S, so obviously Tesla looks at this as a cost saving feature, not a feature. Definitely going to add a small center aftermarket display.
On the other hand, there are a lot of really nice things about the car that make me personally want to try and relearn some habits. The one thing that will make it a little challenging is that this is actually my wife's DD, but I always drive when we are together, so I have to go from my Ioniq 5, which has all of the safety features and is so confidence inspiring.
And, BTW, if you decide to look at other cars, I'd like to put in a plug for the I5. If you look at YouTube comparisons, the I5 nearly always comes out on top versus the Mach E and ID4, and usually the MY. It's gotten just about every award for its class in the last year and is universally well reviewed. I've had mine for 1 year and I like the MY, but, all things considered, I prefer the I5. It currently doesn't qualify for the $7500 rebate, but you can still get a mid-grade SEL for low 50's, and it has all of the features you list in your concerns, except 360 degree view, which is only on the top trim Limited. If you want to spend a little more, the I5 Limited is really amazing.
Thanks. In truth I echo virtually every comment. I've skipped commentary on it till now, but I like/appreciate the thing far more than it's faults. Simply put, I intend to fix what things I find as liabilities immediately as possible. At this moment, and I've avoided this discussion because I don't care to ensite fanboy debate, I see three issues: 1) Most believe there is no rear cross traffic (Big miss!). 2) Personally, I detest not having BSA in the outside mirrors and that Tesla only shows conflict w/turn signals on. 3) I don't like taking my eyes to the center display for speed info.
At present it's really really easy to fix #3, and I certainly will. Looking at the 9" hansshow. I suspect I'm busted on #1. #2 could be augmented by a wise choice in the new center display if traffic visualization is standard and can be displayed on the To-Be center display (lotta if's)
IQ5. Don't I know it. I really wanted to buy one. I can say only four things: 1) I'm married. 2) My wife insists on pearl metallic white. 3) Horror stories aside, I trust Tesla more in the EV space. 4) The HK dealer wanted to add $5K to the thing. I'm not too bright, but I ain't spending $5k extra for a car she hates. I think very highly of it though, and still wonder if I should have just made the call. Again, married. Not the first time I've done something I thought stupid to keep peace, won't be the last either.
Mach-E. Fantastic. My wife wanted me to drive one home Saturday. Back seat is damn near unusable (I'm 6'1"). That time I did use the veto rights. Had the rear seat worked I'd have spent the extra $10k. Really really nice car.