Oh it even feels significantly different when just driving at low speed (5-10 mph) and without sudden acceleration. The steering definitely feels heavier and less assisted compared to my old RWD (both being set to Sport), but i'm not sure if it's just the stickier tires or perhaps an actual difference in how they scale input to the power for the steering rack.
The suspension must also be much softer because i'm coming from 18" aero's to low profile 20" tires and the drive is much smoother with fewer bumps, which is pretty surprising.
A couple comments, sort of in reverse order:
1. The energy efficient tires on the Aero wheels do ride hard probably due to high tire pressures (at least originally) and due to the energy efficient construction. They're meant for lowest energy, not great comfort. I totally agree they ride hard. They're meant to.
The harder ride means the tire is deforming less. Deforming represents energy loss. That's part of the design of the tire itself.
2. The Michelin Pilot Sport 4S are MUCH stickier than the energy tires. They're also much lower profile. As someone who has modified many cars before with exactly that kind of change, yes, the steering feel of the stickier, lower profile tires will be very different; usually much heavier feeling particularly at low speeds.
3. The power steering may or may not have similar levels of boost between LR and P models, but due to the tire differences alone, we can expect them to feel different, even with the same boost. All of the cars I modified with stickier, lower profile tires had unchanged steering, and ALWAYS felt heavier at low speeds. There's less flex in the shorter sidewall, so you feel the road and cornering forces more directly. For sporty driving, that's a good thing.
So yes, I agree with everything you're finding. Tire changes can and do make a huge difference in both feel and performance. I would say the tire change is a large majority of what you're feeling. The extra 90 kg of front motor / gearbox / controller weight also changes feel, but probably less than the tires.
What you're feeling is normal and expected.
Drive a BMW 330i versus an BMW M3 some time. Same difference.
P.S. I find the feel of Model 3 Performance with the Performance Upgrade option to be superb. It's sporty, accurate, responsive without being overly harsh. In fact it rides very well over bad roads. It also sticks like glue in hard turns. It's
incredibly hard to get that kind of tuning right. Tesla did. Very impressive.
It's very easy to make a car that will stick like glue, but rides like a bucking bronco over less than perfect roads. BMW M3 in track mode can jar your teeth loose over a bad road. So can many modified sporty cars. I'm not sure many people appreciate how good the ride/handling compromise in the M3P with PUO is.