OK, there's never been any Tesla that can do the charging you describe in kW, I believe you meant to say amps. The original S/X had either a 40amp single or 80amp dual charging setup, which (in the US) provided at max, 22.16kW. (80amps@277v). Most charged with 40amps @ 240v for 9.6kW. Skip ahead a few generations, and currently all shipping Tesla's come with either a 32 or 48amp onboard charger.
This is correct, I confused my terms, so that diagram does match up with the first gen S where you could have 40 amp or 80 amp charging depending on whether or not you got the optional dual charger.
Everything inside the car is DC powered. That DC current is pulled from the battery (350v to 400v depending on car model), and is stepped down through the DC/DC converter en-route to the various sub-systems inside the car. The majority of which are 12v, but some systems (cabin heat, air conditioning, battery coolant, drivetrain) run at different voltages, but are still DC.
I relate exactly what the repair manual says: "The vehicle recognizes when the AC charge source is connected using CAN communication with the BMS. When charging from an alternating current (AC) source, current flows from the source through the connector to the charge port. From the charge port, it passes through the HVJB (High voltage junction box) and then is routed by bus bars to the on board charger(s). The charger(s) convert AC to DC and supply current to the battery.
The purpose of the HV battery is to provide power to drive the car and run all the accessory systems. It is the primary energy source for the vehicle. The DC-DC converter also functions as a high voltage junction block, distributing current from the HV battery to the A/C compressor, coolant heater, and cabin heater.
I'm not arguing these points, my contention is the same as others, the power doesn't go THROUGH the battery. The equipment effectively runs off of the charger, and as a side effect, minimal amounts of power effectively go into and/or come out of the battery because the bus does not control power flow directionally and there is no isolation performed.
/edit. Just to build on this. My car right now is plugged in, but not charging. It has its charge limit set to 50%, but currently it's SoC is 61% (I charged while at the gym earlier). If I remotely turn on the heater, even though it's plugged in, it will power the heater from the battery and the SoC will drop until it gets below 50%. It will not charge the battery and run the auxiliary systems off that same HV bus (what you are calling "shore power") until it gets below whatever charge limit I've set.
Shore power indicated that everything is powered by the wall bypassing the battery, which is not the case.
Sure, the BMS will prioritize reaching the desired charge, but you've effectively told it to do that. In the opposite direction, when you have scheduled charging set, this isn't what happens. For instance, I have my battery set to charge to 80%, yet when I get home for lunch and the battery is at 68%, if I plug in, it doesn't start charging. If I turn on the A/C, the HPWC relay flips, but it still doesn't start charging, the battery remains at 68% even when I use keep climate on for 30 minutes in spite of the fact that my 100A HPWC circuit wired to 72A X charger could easily charge the battery up during that time. Your two piece argument that it isn't "shore power" has a problem in each piece. First, the suggestion that it's DC means it's not shore power is effectively an argument that a charger isn't a transformer. Second, the suggestion that the battery has to power the components before switching to the power means it isn't shore power is effectively a suggestion that they must turn everything off before flipping the power on even the largest of military watercraft. Do you really support that argument once it's rephrased that way? It is more reasonable to suggest that it isn't necessarily shore power because the BMS only uses the shore power when there is enough demand to justify it, and perhaps that's just what you mean.
The 12v battery will discharge just as much regardless of if the car is plugged in or not. The 12v battery is charged once its voltage drops below a certain threshold. There (to my latest knowledge) is no constant float charge applied to the 12v battery like a ICE car's alternator. The battery runs, loses voltage, and is recharged by the DC/DC system back up to it's spec. This constant charge/discharge arrangement is part of why people have 12v batteries die so often in Teslas. Being plugged into the wall or not doesn't change the things that are powered through the 12v battery. If they did a constant float charge on them (the 12v battery) they would last longer.
I believe your knowledge is correct here, based on the same observation I mentioned earlier. The HPWC has a relay, so there is presumably no AC power drawn unless that relay is flipped, and that relay isn't flipped unless there is sufficient demand to justify it as in my example above. As such, the 12V equipment must run off of the 12V battery even though plugged in (IOW, plugged in is not NECESSARILY / not ALAWYS shore power).